I woke the other morning with the word tenderness on my mind. And I thought, this is what I have been missing recently, what I want in my life. I get caught up in the details of demands – of parenting, working, partnering, living with fullness, and building meaningful relationships. It is easy for me to focus on the task even when my heart’s intention is for connection with those around me. With a frown of concentration I listen to my loved ones and try to be present; I clarify the words to make certain I understand their meaning. I stare and poke and investigate. I analyze, and focus, and then growing weary of the cognitive work, I withdraw, feeling I need rest. And something feels amiss. And it this – tenderness. Soft, forgiving, compassionate, chuckling, affectionate tenderness. For others; for myself.
I want tenderness
in my life.
Dripping, sliding between and
through the cracks of
expectation and accountability.
I want tenderness
to pool at the bottom,
a rich molasses-layer
of sweet laughter and
sloppy delight.